
I have struggled with maintaining the balance between work and family for years. I have always let work win. I’ve made that choice knowingly, because I knew if I worked hard or went above and beyond, there would be a reward of some kind (i.e. pay raises, bonuses, praise, additional business, etc.) I’ve made the choice to make work my priority… and my wife has been extremely supportive. Little did I fully realize, but work was driving a wedge deeper and deeper between me and my wife.
A friend suggested I read Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley. It handles this very issue. Who wins when family and work collide? For me, that’s always been an easy answer: I’ve got to work. I’ve got to keep my job.
I never realized I was going about things the wrong way.
By making work my priority I’ve made my wife less of a priority. She’s been understanding and supportive of my job, but each and every time I have chose work over her, it’s chipped away at her - making her feel less and less important to me.
My job is very important to me, but not as important as my family is or should be to me. I must have some sort of balance back in my life before things spiral out of control. This book helped me to realize that. It helped me realize that I really have misplaced my priorities. My wife, my family should be more a priority to me.
As a result of reading this book, I have committed to Kim that I will show her that she is the priority in my life for the next thirty days. I will show her by being more involved at home, more involved with her pregnancy. I will also show her by leaving work earlier every day (by 5:30pm) and by staying off the computer at home. I love what I do for a living, but I love my wife more. It’s time I show her that she’s my main priority. I also know that by making this change in my life, I will be glorifying God with my actions.
“I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart, and I will glorify your name forever.” (Psalm 86:12, ESV)
If you’ve struggled with maintaining the balance between work and family, I highly suggest you check out Choosing to Cheat. It really has made a difference in my life, and I know it will make a difference in yours.